In a desire for change, I decided to go for a shade of strawberry blonde. Not sure if I will keep it but I’ve enjoyed trying something different. I’ve had a myriad of responses: “I love it!”, “OMG. What did you do to your hair?”, and everything in between.
I’m a designer. I’m gay. I have no shame in either fact. Yet it still amazes me how many designers or gays are judgmental. Part of being a great designer is always refining your world. Perfectionism is a natural tendency because you always expect better. I judge myself.
To be real, real honest, there have been times where I have to check myself not to have an emotional response to feedback. Whether it be external or even internal.
When I shattered my kneecap in December that made it very difficult to work out. I put on extra weight. Part of this was emotional eating and a good portion of it was immobility. Even now, months later, I’m finding it more difficult to keep up with the routine that I had before. I get tired easily. Sometimes I slip up and let my emotions talk me out of the very routine that will help me physically improve.
Empathy is something the world could use more of. Myself included. Take a pause. Step back and look at the whole. Get to the “why” of the matter. “Oh wow, he put on a ton of weight. Lazy. Tisk.” Perhaps, there were underlying circumstances that affected that outcome.
Going back to design, creating a great user experience is similar. Instead of looking at something one dimensionally, try to find the root cause. What is the user really trying to accomplish, struggling with, etc.
I’m still working on my goals.
However, I’m doing a heavy dose of soul searching to figure out why my actions have been counteractive to my good intentions.
I won’t give up. I can’t. It just may take longer than I anticipated.
Plus, ugh, cupcakes.